Hey, girl, hey! Have you ever felt like you want to mom so well, but you can’t because you’re having a meltdown? Here are some efficient things you can implement (that I’m doing as well) so you can be the best mom those kiddos could ever long for!
Take care of yourself first
Let me start this by saying I’m not promoting selfishness. On the contrary, it’s essential to the health of our families that we first stay grounded in who we are. Find those things that keep us true to ourselves. I’m a dancer and a singer, and to be honest, when I stopped both, I felt like I stopped living. But that’s not what life is about. It’s all about making each moment matter while being fully alive and fully present. Jesus came that we might have life and have it more abundantly–and that includes refueling yourself spirit, soul, and body.
- Journal your thoughts daily, espeically before bedtime so you can free your mind from anything that could cause clutter.
- Spend time in God’s Word because this is your lifeline. Don’t rush it; just spend quality time in prayer, worship, and the Word of God. This is refreshing, more than any nap and espresso shot.
- Take care of your body with daily exercise, clean eating for your body type, and getting enough sleep. To neglect this step means that you have warped priorities. No worries about that because I’ve been there too. You’re worthy of royal, intentional treatment.
Meet them where they are
This point probably sounds strange, but how often are you getting into your kids’ space and looking at things through their lens? We create our idea of a good time, yet we could miss it. This is where being on their level with an open heart helps.
- Listen to what they desire to do because they will gladly pay attention to you, if they feel you’re paying attention to them.
- PLAY WITH YOUR CHILDREN! You can’t even fathom how much that speaks to and affirms your little ones when they see mama is willing to sit down and play with dump trucks or Thomas the Train.
- Be present with them because they can tell when you aren’t. And it hurts. You might not think much of it because you’re a multitasker. However, just like you hate it when your hubby is scrolling on his phone when you’re trying to talk to him, your children hate when you do it to them.
I’m not an expert, and I’m not perfect, but this is what I’m doing to help build and strengthen the necessary comrade needed with my children. As I give them a version of me that’s well-rested and rejuvenated, our interaction is sweeter, and their attitudes are more positive and bright. If you’re willing to take care of yourself and then meet them where they are, you’re well on your way to momming like a boss!
Love,
Candace
Photos courtesy of Falando Jones Photography
